Welcome to
Pre-School
Girl and Boy are 4 years old.
Background
BOY and GIRL were set to being pre-K in different classrooms. BOY was to be in class with Philips/Roth and GIRL was scheduled to be in a completely different classroom.
I took the kids to orientation and then I received a call from school. It was Ms. Philips. She told me that she was moving GIRL to her classroom and she was calling to let me know that. I protested. The conversation went like this:
Teacher:
Hi, This is Ms. Philips. I'm calling because we're going to move GIRL to my classroom.
Me:
That's not a good idea. Her twin brother is in that classroom. She needs to be in the other classroom.
Teacher:
I see here that GIRL was in the Babies Can't Wait Program.
I'm the inclusion teacher at school and she will be better in my classroom.
Me:
GIRL didn't need Babies Can't Wait. BOY did. They're twins. They told me they would never come into someone's house and pay attention to just one kid. They explained to me that usually when one twin needs services, the other one does too - so GIRL also had BBCW services. But she was not the one that needed them.
They were both evaluated by the school before pre-k and neither of them qualified for Pre-K services.
Teacher:
I observed your family at orientation. Something happened and GIRL was crying. She took a long time to calm down.
Me:
No she didn't. She's 4. She got in a toy battle with her brother. They're twins. It's an attention thing. That's normal.
(You will see this exact scenario play out below. Boy and Girl get in an altercation. Both melt into crying puddles. Girl always cries louder and harder and takes a little longer to calm down when her brother is there. The formula is: A+B+C = D
A = room outside of the house with all toys that we don't have at home and new people
B = siblings in the same room
C = altercation over toy
D = both kids melt down, GIRL cries louder and harder and longer.
It's called sibling rivalry. The louder one get's the attention first. The louder one is the one that is hurt more and needs care first, hungrier and needs to eat first, gets more attention. They both know that from infancy. Google it. It's a thing.)
Teacher:
Ms. MOM that is NOT NORMAL!
GIRL will be better in my classroom. There are almost 25 students in the other classroom and GIRL needs additional attention that she won't receive in that class. It will be too much for them to manage and disruptive. There are currently 9 students and 3 teachers. With your two, it will be 11 students and 3 teachers. She will get a lot of attention in my classroom. She will be better in my room.
School started August 9th.
Girl begins receiving behavior reports from the first day.
I know that's hard to believe.
Below is a collection of as many of them that I could find.
**RR is restroom
Welcome to
Pre-School
Girl and Boy are 4 years old.
Background
BOY and GIRL were set to being pre-K in different classrooms. BOY was to be in class with Philips/Roth and GIRL was scheduled to be in a completely different classroom.
I took the kids to orientation and then I received a call from school. It was Ms. Philips. She told me that she was moving GIRL to her classroom and she was calling to let me know that. I protested. The conversation went like this:
Teacher:
Hi, This is Ms. Philips. I'm calling because we're going to move GIRL to my classroom.
Me:
That's not a good idea. Her twin brother is in that classroom. She needs to be in the other classroom.
Teacher:
I see here that GIRL was in the Babies Can't Wait Program.
I'm the inclusion teacher
at school and she will be better in my classroom.
Me:
GIRL didn't need Babies Can't Wait. BOY did. They're twins. They told me they would never come into someone's house and pay attention to just one kid. They explained to me that usually when one twin needs services, the other one does too - so GIRL also had BBCW services. But she was not the one that needed them.
They were both evaluated by the school recently and neither of them qualified for Pre-K services.
Teacher:
I observed your family at orientation. Something happened and GIRL was crying. She took a long time to calm down.
Me:
No she didn't. She's 4. She got in a toy battle with her brother. They're twins. It's an attention thing. That's normal.
Teacher:
Ms. MOM that is
NOT NORMAL!
GIRL will be better in my classroom. There are almost 25 students in the other classroom and GIRL needs additional attention that she won't receive in that class. It will be too much for them to manage and disruptive. There are currently 9 students and 3 teachers. With your two, it will be 11 students and 3 teachers. She will get a lot of attention in my classroom. She will be better in my room.
School started August 9th.
Girl begins receiving behavior reports from the first day.
I know that's hard to believe.
Below is a collection of as many of them that I could find.
**RR is restroom
AUGUST
August 10th, 2021
BOY has an accident in class. The behavior that I'm describing below is what I used to do when he did this at home. He already stopped and I was telling them what I had experienced and how I handled it. You will see that these "accidents" escalate to bowel accidents, which he never had anywhere else, ever.
Fear of missing out is a common twin anxiety when twin sibling rivalry is not being managed by the adults around them.
August 16th, 2021
August 16th, 2021
My little girl loves positivity <3.
"awww, that's adorable.:
Three weeks in -
August 27th, 2021
Sent a note to the teacher.
GIRL is bringing these home on a daily basis since the first week of school.
See the teacher's reply August 30th, below.
AUGUST 27th, 2021
I Posted video on FB: I asked BOY about what he did in school that day.
He said he did the dumbest thing in his whole life.
August 27, 2021
People that know us comment
how smart BOY and GIRL are.
Kids are supposed to love school.
Mine were just tolerating it.
They hated it actually.
August 30th, 2021
Hi! I noticed your message on the chart. We will tell you soon about whether or not it's helping. We will change the course and "provide additional support" as we need.
Mom, you are not on this team. We know what we're doing, thank you very much.
You will see this theme play out again at Roswell North during our final IEP meeting. Parent is not a member of the team.
August 30, 2021
They were calling him out in front of his sister all day long.
BUT - No bad behavior reports. Only for GIRL.
I don't take things out of their hands because I don't want them taking things out of other people's hands. See how I get them to give me something on September 6th, below.
August 31st, 2021
ONE MONTH IN - WE ARE HAVING FAR MORE MELTDOWNS THAN USUAL
Here, the teacher conveying that I didn't send them to school like this.
Yes, by this point - only one month in -
there is something that's causing them some intense emotions.
August 31st - I ask for a phone call because both children have completely deteriorated in only one month time. During this call, I discuss the behavior reports and the damage that I see they are creating.
GIRL's behavior is the worst. BOY is complaining the most.
August 31, 2021
People love to ask me what I was doing at home to reinforce good behavior at school.
I was teaching her not to argue back. Just tell the kid - No, no, no you're mistaken
(when they say she is a baby or something like that), and get an adult.
August 31st
When GIRL got home from school her report had all smilies and she gave it to me and was dancing all over. I sent a pic to her teacher the next day.
It's very hard to not see this system for what it is.
It's subjective damaging nonsense.
It's no coincidence that GIRL came home with three smiley faces right after I complained about it.
September 2021
September 1st, 2021
She made things for me on days when she was having a really hard time. When she makes things for me I praise her so she makes things for me when she's having an especially hard day. This theme will repeat itself.
And of course, there would be no way that you could possibly send an email to me from GIRL withought also sending one from BOY! He would never allow that. So, here's the email from boy 15 minutes later. (Sibling rivalry.)
I complain and GIRL gets all smiles 2 days in a row.
September 6th, 2021
Did I ever discipline them by taking away things they like for bad behavior?
No. I would just ask them to put it in my hand by holding my hand out and saying "thank you".
I don't even actually have to ask.
I never had to take anything out of their hands, ever.
In my house, we don't do to children what you don't want them to do to other people.
We don't take things out of their hands so that they won't just go take things out of people's hands.
September 7th.
Bad behavior reports continue despite my request for them to stop.
GIRL gets off the bus and said "I'm sorry I let you down when I got a short face at school."
GIRL begins daily negative self-talk - "I'm so stupid, I'm so dumb."
September 7th, 2021
GIRL begins to internalize that she is "letting me down" - disappointing me. It was her teachers who introduced this message to her head.
***Pay attention to how she later begs her first grade teacher to remember to tell me what an amazing day she had on one particular day. It was "all she cared about".
In kindergarten, she had an amazing day every day. That's all I ever heard about and she knew that. In first grade, she deteriorated so badly that she's begging her teacher to remember to tell me about her amazing day.
Also pay attention to how BOY reacts in first grade when his teacher says she is disappointed. Remember, he witnessed and was affected by their experience in pre-k and was being affected by what his sister was actively experiencing in first grade.
September 13th, 2021
They are now trying a different KIND of chart.
I asked them if it would be helpful if I came and sat in to figure out what was going on (because she never does any of these things at home). I told them I would "leave it to their best judgement" to seem helpful and respectful of their classroom. I knew I could figure out in 10 seconds what was going on.
This is the response I got:
Not only were they clearly evaluating her and I didn't know about it
- they were scrutinizing, chastising, and demonizing her IN FRONT OF HER BROTHER every day and creating the most severe sibling rivalry that didn't exist prior to this experience. The outcome of which has been devastating for my entire family.
This is the reason that they wouldn't transfer her to the other classroom when I asked them to. They were evaluating her while I was protesting, and I didn't know it.
It's very hard for people to believe me when I say that GIRL was targeted at orientation and then started receiving bad behavior reports from Day 1.
But right here on September 13th, the teacher tells me - "Once she has been here for 60 days...."
60 days from August 9th, 2021 - when school started - brings us to October 8th. On September 27th (below) they called me to have the initial teleconference to discuss the results of their 60 day observation.
THE INCLUSION TEACHER TARGETED MY DAUGHTER DURING ORIENTATION AND BEGAN SENDING HER HOME WITH BAD BEHAVIOR REPORTS IN FRONT OF HER BROTHER, FROM DAY 1. DO YOU BELIEVE ME NOW? BOY and GIRL WERE EVALUATED BY THE SCHOOL BEFORE PRE-K, FOR special-ed PRE-K SERVICES, AND FOUND NOT TO NEED ANY. BY THE VERY SAME SCHOOL.
They were EVALUATING HER FOR SERVICES WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE OR CONSENT from the first day. Because her pre-k teacher believed that she needed them from the very beginning based on her observation of them at orientation. So, they ignored me every time I told them "She never does this at home."
They presumed things like, "She always gets what she wants at home, or She always gets her way at home."* and continued implementing their intended behavior modification program to the detriment of both children.
*(You will see this below and documented as a repeating theme all the way through second grade. I am a single woman and SOLE parent of TWINS. As of February 2nd, 2025, I haven't been able to work since May, 2024 as a result of this school situation. There is no possible way that she could always get everything she wants. It's not logical.)
I'm still trying to help them even AFTER they shut me down.
(...but honestly, it never really helps to change the child's behavior)
I did implement the most fabulous star chart system, even though we didn't need it - to try and help.
September 13th, 2021
GIRL is bringing these home every day and I'm already at the end of my patience for this process. I posted online for suggestions with the note that I sent to the teacher suggesting that we talk alternatives. She didn't hear that request and just kept right on going.
SEPTEMBER 14th, 2021
Boy begins having frequent accidents in the afternoon. He doesn't ever do this at home. He just went to the bathroom and 20 minutes later, he has an accident. This is a regressive behavior. Regressive behaviors are a sign of trauma.
September 27th, 2021
They were ready to discuss the results of the 60 day evaluation.
That started on my daughter's first day of school.
Imagine you are FOUR and this is your very first introduction to school.
Did you know that if a police officer follows you for twenty miles...
And in my daughter's case, she was in a room with her brother being left to fight with her brother every day and then get chastised for it. Every day.
This was MY pre-k experience, too.
I'll never get this time back and these are the memories and feelings.
September 29th, 2021
BOY and GIRL have only been in school for 2 months.
October
OCTOBER 2021
October 4, 2021
BOY and GIRL are fighting at home FOR THE FIRST TIME.
It's so new to me that at this point, I think it's comical without realizing what was actually happening.
Can we look at the substance of their arguments?
Dont look at me. Dont touch me. Don't touch my things.
It's very obvious sibling rivalry that was being created and fueled at school, and seeping into our home lives.
Also, at home, they are only yelling nonsense at each other.
This is WILDLY different from what is going on at school.
She BIT her brother in school two days later. (10/8)
They never did any of the things they did at school, at home.
SHE BIT HER BROTHER IN SCHOOL.
They've been in school for exactly TWO MONTHS.
In my house, they're barely yelling nonsense at each other because they've never been pitted against each other like this at home.
At home they feel safe when they escalate because,
"if you never let them get to level orange, they will never get to level orange".
We don't let them fight at home. They're only 4. All they should be doing is enjoying and loving each other.
Think of this like every other four year old. A four year old should be able to hang out with a group of 4 year olds without fighting.
GIRL and BOY CAN do that very easily. The caveat is that BOY and GIRL are SIBLINGS.
GIRL and BOY CAN hang out with a group of four year olds without fighting, so long as their sibling is not in the group.
NO OTHER CHILD HAS A SIBLING IN THE GROUP.
It's not fair to them.
Someone MUST manage the sibling rivalry when they are together in order for them to truly love and enjoy each other.
They are only 4.
They can't manage sibling rivalry themselves yet.
They should have been in separate classes in pre-k, and they wouldn't now, since Kindergarten, need to be in completely separate buildings to even function.
If they HAD to be forced into the same classroom, someone needed to be managing their sibling rivalry they way I do, at all times, because they were 4.
That didn't happen. They were pitted against each other, against my better judgement and request, for an entire year. And GIRL was demonized for the entire year.
They now need to be in entirely separate buildings to even function.
Their frustration tolerance and tolerance for competition was driven so low. They suffered from explosive rage as a result of this.
They allowed BOY to be bitten.
They allowed GIRL to bite him.
THEY WERE FOUR.
October 10, 2021
On the weekends, I am able to take them places and do things with them without any problem. My daughter is the sweetest girl in the entire world and she's being chastised in school every day for something which is beyond her control. Sibling rivalry. Please notice that NO OTHER CHILD is involved in these incidents. This eroded away their relationship so badly.
She plays for a long time with other kids and her brother with no problem.
October 12, 2021
I insisted all year long that they never do any of these things at home.
I trusted BOY and GIRL so much that on the weekends at 4 years old, they would wake up at 6am, go to the living room, and play all morning until I woke up at 9am. She BIT HIM in school!!! But at home, I sleep while they play for three hours.
GIRL had such a great day that she earned all smiles and was offered several rewards which she refused and / or tried to return. NOW - she is getting a ton of attention and rewards in front of her brother all day long.
This is becoming my every day life.
After 7 days of being out of that environment completely, she's back to her normal self at home.
This begins the "fixation on a bully". This theme plays out again in first grade. GIRL was already coming home telling me that her teacher was bullying her. I would tell her that her teacher wasn't bullying her, that she was trying to help her in the class. When GIRL realized that telling me her teacher was bullying her wasn't working, she starts telling me that other kids are calling her names.
Also after one full week out of that environment, she gets all smiles all day and earns several rewards which she rejects.
All of this is extra attention and praise is going on in front of her brother who is not getting the same amount of attention or praise.
October 16th, 2021
Another example of life at home. Notice the stark contrast.
October 22, 2021
Another really good day.
Also, please take notice -
emails from Roth are usually positive. Emails from Philips are mostly abyssmal.
A perfect example of her. She lets you down kindly and with a hug. She doesn't just tell you "NO!" and walk away. She doesn't gloat on about it. She's the kindest best kid ever.
Do you see it yet? GIRL IS getting a LOT of attention and rewards and reports sent home. So he kicks it up a notch and has bowel accidents. Look at the timing - AFTER THEY GIVE HIM A LOT OF ATTENTION - AND A LOT OF TALKING TO ABOUT IT - HE DOES IT AGAIN.
They should have changed him and not given it any more attention than that. PERIOD.
October 22, 2021
10/25/2021
10/25/2021
At this point, both children are getting off of the school bus and running away from me.
They were fighting with each other on the bus every day.
They were FOUR.
BOY was getting out of his seat and going to the 5th graders in the back of the bus to pick fights. 5th grader realized he could infuriate BOY by calling him a baby in front of everyone (especially his sister). They thought it was funny. So almost every day, there was a fight with a 5th grader on the bus. For a whole year.
It's hard to convey how damaging this was for them as children, as people, and as siblings.
It's even harder for me to convey how damaging it was for me as a parent.
EVERY OTHER KID GOT OFF THE BUS AND RAN TO THEIR MOM.
MINE WERE RUNNING AWAY FROM ME. In pre-K.
This is their first real experience with school. It was a disaster.
She's eloping because she needed her mother. THAT'S how bad it was for her in there. She's not eloping because she's bad or she's not getting her way. She needed her mom. If you need any more proof that these behavior charts are incredibly damaging, the chart that she brought home on this day (10/25) wasn't even that bad...
But GIRL doesn't realize that.
GIRL just knows she had a bad day, her arm was grabbed, and she came home with a paper. She has no idea wth is going on.
These charts don't work.
Why WAS GIRL's arm grabbed?
TO THIS DAY - NO ONE can put their hand around GIRL's arm.
Do you have any idea how hard this made it for me to take them to the pediatrician? Going to the pediatrician during pre-k and first grade was an absolute nightmare.
This is how you're supposed to do this. Each color has a positive remark.
Here we can see the previous theme play out.
She makes things for me when she is being really mistreated at school and I send back a little praise email.
On October 25th, GIRL got off the bus and told me the teacher grabbed her arm.
I knew something was wrong that day because I got this email:
"Hello Mommy. Look what I made for you when I was having a tough time."
But, the teachers never told me what the tough time was, exactly. No one ever told me about grabbing her arm at all and, the chart was relatively mild this day. What was the tough time?
Just as I did when class started, I asked for GIRL to be switched out of this classroom.
I was told that it was too late in the semester and they couldn't just switch her.
10/26/2021
4 days ago, she had a really great morning. Now, only 4 days later, every morning has become a consistant struggle. What is going on here?
Notice the difference in tone based on the author of the email.
And now out of sheer desperation, they have me participating in this abuse.
GIRL went to school that day and everyone ate breakfast in front of her - including her brother.
October 26th, 2021
October 27th, 2021. GIRL is bringing home the tricks she learns in school.
October 29, 2021
At home, the kids wake up at 6am and play together without problem. They're not competing with each other for my equal attention at home, and they only get positive attention at home..
OCTOBER 31, 2021
LIFE AT HOME
November
November 6th, 2021
It's the weekend.
Yes, you just read that correctly. They wake up at 6am, go to the middle floor of the townhouse, and take care of themselves until 10am when I finally roll out of bed. No problem.
At home, I can leave them on the middle floor of our townhouse, camped out in the living room for a Saturday night movie, and take a bath for an hour or longer without worrying about them one time.
November 10th, 2021
November 11th, 2021
There are 15 sets of twins in the last 5 generations in my family. Twins run in families.
The two attachments to my 11/11 email:
November 12th, 2021
Parent teacher conference today.
Supporting comments from people that know our family well.
During this meeting, I did say to Philips and Roth, "It's very hard for me to not feel like you're ruining my children. I feel like you're ruining my children."
AFTER THE CONFERENCE
Imagine this as your experience as a first time parent with kids in pre-school. It's so bad that you're contemplating withdrawing the child from the school. I didn't because I'm sole parent of twins. I should have because I ultimately had to leave my job because of this.
EVEN WORSE - It was all so unnecessary. We could have had the most wonderful experience - the same way we do every where else we go.
There is so much research to support everything I was saying and these women refused to listen to me.
November 13th, 2021
Here we are again - Friday night and I'm exactly where I always am every Friday night while the kids are watching a move. I'm taking an hour-long bath on a whole different level of the townhouse with not a single worry about whether my kids would be OK. Wildly different than what we are experiencing at school.
November 15th, 2021
November 16, 2021
This is how she talks to me at home.
November 17th, 2021
November 18th, 2021
Things are getting so bad at school that after insisting during the meeting referenced, they finally allowed me to come in. By this point, so much damage had already been done and so much learning has already been lost.
I told them I would no longer be reading or discussing the behavior charts with GIRL nor would I be signing them anymore. I told them I would be leaving them in her bag from now on. I also let them know that I told GIRL that the charts didn't matter to me and I would not longer be reading them. They wouldn't stop and I had enough. From this point forward, they don't use behavior reports anymore, they're started emailing me EVERY DAY. So, they're still treating her the exact same way, they're just emailing me about it now. As a parent, every email and call from school make your heart go into your throat until you get to the part where you find out that your kids are ok. Then you let out a sigh of relief and can listen to what the call is actually about. That happens EVERY SINGLE TIME. This is torture for me.
Pay attention to the substance of GIRL's behaviors from this point forward - ONCE THE BEHAVIOR CHARTS HAVE BEEN REMOVED.
This is the stand-out worst experience of my entire life to this point. First grade gets exponentially worse.
MOM
She came up with a way to not sing the requested song, all on her own. And it was a brilliant compromise - which is to be expected. She is brilliant. And not under the threat of a behavior chart.
At school, they are reading social stories about staying with the group. On the weekends, I take her to corn mazes and don't worry once about whether she will ever run away from me. No tracking devices, ever. I've taken them to Disney with no help and I forgot the jiobits at home.
This is the last email of the day. Take note of the time. School has already been dismissed. The day is over.
November 19th, 2021
This is where she finally strong-arms me into an IEP by threatening to suspend GIRL. I want to know how they triggered her this day and what happened with her brother all morning long.
I NEVER wanted GIRL to have an IEP. SHE DOESN'T NEED ONE. This was the agenda from the onset.
What I find is very important here is this - YESTERDAY, November 18th, the last email after dismissal mentions NOTHING about issues at nap time or about spending nap time in Wagner's office.
Today, November 19th, I find out that yesterday afternoon was terrible. AND, she was sent to the principal's office.
November 23, 2021
What's important to note here is that I have worked from home for the last 18 years. I held a senior position at a 13B company. When the kids are home from school, I am still responsible for meetings all day long. I would leave them on the middle floor of the townhouse for literal hours at a time, coming down from my office on the top floor intermittently between meetings to feed them. I never had a single problem and they were home A LOT.
Also, before anyone gets crazy, they were taking pics of each other in pajamas.
November 25th, 2021
She went to the Van Gogh exhibit and got a ring and then came home and asked me to marry her. I got pics of her putting a ring on my finger :)
November 29th, 2021
Once again, after GIRL is removed from this environment for almost two weeks, she is back to her normal self. She will perform for Ms. Roth but not for Philips.
November 30, 2021
This is what happened when I tried to get somebody, any body, else involved.
November 30th, 2021
Seems like a great day to me, comparatively, of course.
My daughter should have been thriving in school.
And here I am, signing the consent to evaluate because they have threatened to suspend GIRL and the only way to avoid that is with an IEP. Now, WATCH HOW LONG it takes me to get the forms back to them because at this point, I have no idea how to complete them except to say, "she doesn't do any of these things at home".
December
December 1st, 2021
December 2, 2021
Same day. This is the twilight zone.
This is EXACTLY what happened at orientation. GIRL always cries louder and harder. The squeaky wheel gets the grease and they know that. Even at 4. Even in infancy. It's called twin escalation.
From above during orientation:
Teacher:
I observed your family at orientation. Something happened and GIRL was crying. She took a long time to calm down.
Me:
No she didn't. She's 4. She got in a toy battle with her brother. They're twins. It's an attention thing. That's normal.
December 3rd, 2021
WOW! Another great day with no behavior reports. Emails only. It's working. Can anyone tell me why we are still moving forward with the IEP?
These are the kinds of activities that I do with them at home.
December 6th, 2021
ANOTHER GREAT DAY
No behavior reports, only daily emails.
This is torture for a parent. So many conferences. It's all nonsense that is being created by these two.
December 8th, 2021
I still have not returned the Request for Assistance form because I have no idea what to put except - she doesnt do any of this at home.
December 14th, 2021
December 18th, 2021
This is the sweetest, most wonderfully supportive child and she has always been this way. At home, she almost always uses kind words.
DECEMBER 25th, 2021
All she cares about is love and kindness. The power of hearts is for everybody and Santa.
DECEMBER 29th, 2021
She is the most encouraging and supportive child at home.
Jannuary 2022
January 4th - January 6th 2022
I can take them on a plane, completely out of the country, BY MYSELF - with no problem.
January 11th, 2022
January 12, 2022
January 13th 2022
January 18th, 2022
I finally return the request for assistance that I was strong armed into requesting. TWO FULL MONTHS LATER. That's how long it took me. That's how interested I was in being assisted with GIRL.
January 19th, 2022
This is depression. They both go to bed at 7PM, on the dot, without exception.
January 20th, 2022
Who was in the group? WHO WAS IN THE GROUP!!!!
January 25th, 2022
When I tell you this was non-stop, I truly mean that this harassment was absolutely non-stop, every day, all year. This is the worst possible pre-school experience for a child and a parent and a family.
FEBRUARY 2022
February 3, 2022
February 7th, 2022
Wait until we get to First Grade so you can see how she deteriorated academically.
February 11th, 2022
February 15th, 2022
READ CAREFULLY - My son's behaviors are now becoming the same. Taking things, screaming and crying, knocking things over, ELOPING!!!! This was so damaging for them. OH!!! BTW - there's nothing in his permanent record AND HE HAD THE BEST KINDERGARTEN YEAR EVER WITH EXACTLY ZERO INTERVENTIONS. NO IEP.
February 23th, 2022
February 23th, 2022
This is harassing and it was non-stop.
As a parent, my heart jumps every time school calls. As a parent, I'm a nervous wreck until I open the email and know they are ok. Then every day I have to read about their deterioration. This was a truly devastating experience. I STILL dread receiving emails and phone calls from school. Every one that comes in is triggering for me, even today in 2025.
February 24th, 2022
She resends the request for assistance paperwork. Do you remember the way she guilted me as a parent into signing GIRL's document? "She needs special help and the way to get the help that your child needs is by filling these documents out."
She assessed and decided that GIRL needed special help and then tried to strong arm me into signing by guilting my motherhood into doing the right thing and getting my child the help she needed.
NOW - It's BOY's turn. I just told her I don't see any changes at home yesterday! Today, she's sending the request for assistance.
MARCH, 2022
March 17, 2022
March 10, 2022
I always forget clothes in their bag because I never have this problem with them and I take them on adventures every weekend.
March 22, 2022
March 29th, 2022
Fighting on the bus and in school. There were 3 teachers and 11 students.
March 29, 2022
This is how they behave at home.
APRIL 2022
APRIL 14th, 2022
There was nothing wrong with him.
APRIL 25th, 2022
This is complex behavior. She LOVES candy. These teachers have been tying praise, and thereby, validating her self esteem and sense of self worth and pride, to rewards. They were actively trying to find better rewards all the time because GIRL refused the rewards. I never did this to them at home. I praise the positive and ignore the negative and it works very well, very quickly AND it preserves their self-esteem and sibling dynamic.
When the giver of rewards (the teacher) denied her the biggest best reward, in front of her brother - in her "just turned 5 year old eyes" it was an affront on her, personally. And, after 8 months of this, her behaviors have escalated out of control.
APRIL 25th, 2022
She never does any of this. I don't even know what to tell them any more at this point. We went to Nickelodeon Resort in Punta Cana for a week. That place is loaded with sweet treats. I set limits with no problem.
APRIL 26th, 2022
This is devastating.
She just kept saying that she wanted to go home.
APRIL 27th, 2022
APRIL 28th, 2022
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